Regrets – My Philosophy (with Advice from Rafiki and Grumpy)

I’ve been doing a lot of job searching as of late, and poring over every article on what you should/shouldn’t do during the whole job-obtaining process, and growing more and more baffled at how difficult it is to write cover letters.  (I know, you’d think the whole “B.A. in English” would have helped with that.)

Anyway, I was looking over some sample interview questions and this one came up:

What is your biggest regret and why?

This one, along with “What was your biggest failure?” really stumped me in my mental interview, because, to be quite honest, I don’t like going through life regretting things (or dwelling on failures, for that matter).

If I were go back through my life and think about every single stupid thing I did, every bad thing that happened, or every day I felt lesser than a dung beetle, I really don’t think I’d change anything.  No, I really don’t.

Yes, there were days that were painful.  Yes, I made mistakes, big and small.  But those are things in my past that have shaped me, and as Rafiki says…

“Oh, yes, the past can hurt…but the way I see it, you can either run from it, or, learn from it.”

I’ve learned something from every experience in my life, and those life lessons cannot be replicated.  Altering any piece of my past would mean a loss of a part of me.

Take a look at this clip from Sunday’s episode of Once Upon A Time: [*spoiler warning*]

“As wretched as it is, I need my pain.  It makes me who I am.  It makes me Grumpy.”

I have to agree with Grumpy.  As hard as it might be to feel the pain of losing someone, forgetting it ever happened – erasing it – is even worse.  Snow White was weak for drinking that potion.  Weak for wanting to forget about someone she cared about with all her heart.

I don’t try to forget my past or run from it.  I’m stronger than that.  Instead, I “Take chances, make mistakes, get messy” (Miss Frizzle), and most of all, learn from it.

(Besides, a resourceful girl like Snow could have found a way for them to be together and evade the evil ones. 😉 )

What about you?  What’s your philosophy on regrets?